No, the forum is not at all dead - but you have asked a question to which there is no answer...
The only monitors that anyone would suggest would be a viable professional monitor - FSI for example.
Any other 'monitors', especially those at the low end of the market are down to you profiling the monitor to see what it can do.
The same monitor is not the same - the manufacturers change too any things on a regular basis for any one cheap monitor to remain stable as a guaranteed option.
As you found out, the HP Dreamcolor is not a good monitor, although all the 'marketing' suggests otherwise.
(This has been discussed in some depth here, and on the LGG forums)
Personally, I think Eizo are worth looking at.
But, beyond that it really is a Crap Shoot.
Steve
Steve Shaw
Mob Boss at Light Illusion